What we become...

What we live with we learn usually from a young age. What we learn we practice (daily).

What we practice, we become. What we become has consequences. Can you live with your choices and the consequences of your choices? Just saying. Just My Two Cents....

Kindess....

Treat others with kindness for you never know what burdens another may be carrying. We all go through tough times, but remember tough times never last ~ tough people do!!

Lately, I have started looking back at my life ~ through all of the choices I have made, the good as well as the bad. I often find myself reflecting on those choices and wonder if I handled my decisions the right way...As many of you know, this year has been filled with a lot of pain for me ~ so much so that I have often been left wondering how I was going to make it through yet another day.

There were many times I felt so weak and defeated I thought that I had in fact lost the battle ~ yet what stuck out most in my heart and mind is remembering the acts of kindness from others.

I have come to the realization that, it is because of those people whose genuine kindness and concern helped me through my tough times, I can now fully understand and appreciate how strong I really am and how I have evolved into the woman I now am!

The way you conduct yourself during the hard times will most likely determine your fate ~ will you handle it with grace and dignity or bitterness and hate? Life can deal some difficult and amazingly hard blows but there are beautiful lessons to be gained if you are willing to suffer though the pain to get to the beauty which life has to offer.

I do not take these words lightly because I personally know that it hurts like hell. It may seem like an eternity at the time but I can tell you without a doubt, it will not last forever. For me, I chose the path of kindness. I wish those who have tried to do harm to me - well. It has not been an easy pill to swallow, so I drink a lot of water (smile).

YES ~ you are going to make mistakes, we all do.

Always be kind to others for you alone have the power to help lift their spirits or break them. Which person will you be? Just some food for thought and as always, Just my Two Cents...

Just when...

Just as everything falls apart, it will eventually all "fall" together and you will understand why it all happened in the first place.

Fear and low self esteem can be real mind benders but you MUST have the foresight and the faith to know that even though you may not get over it, you will get though it.

When you are tired, wake up. If you are weak, become stronger! If you are lost make it so you can be found. When your fear is high ~ conquer it!

Just when you think all is lost, it will be found again! Keep the faith and keep your chin up! Just My Two Cents......

Sprits in a material world

Remember the Police song, "Spirits in a Material World"? Well, I just happened to overhear it playing in the background the other day and it brought to mind how temporary our time here on earth really is. As such, we can choose our time wisely and learn some of the many wonderful, sometimes painful, bittersweet yet necessary lessons that life has to offer. Or, we can continue to simply be empty shells and move though life learning nothing at all. It is our choice.

We are not human beings going through a temporary spiritual experience rather, we are spiritual beings going through a temporary human experience.

I would not trade one of my lessons I have learned and the value of life it has taught me for anything in the world. This has indeed been a tough year for me but, I have gained so much through the pain, the tears and yes, even the laughter. I am tremendously blessed to have been through the fire ~ because I have come out on the other side, stronger, wiser and happier than ever!

Think about it. If we are lucky enough to be on this earth for any length of time at all, there are so many opportunities to learn and grow spiritually before we can move on to the next realm. So, we really are spirits moving about in a material world trying to fulfill our predetermined destiny before our time here has expired. Heavy, I know. But definitely food for thought. Just My Two Cents....

Life as I know it...

So, yes it has been a tough year. But remember the saying, "Tough times never last, tough people do." Well it is true! I am healing everyday. Little by little the pain and hurt continues to fall away...

I am following my dreams and what is in my heart. I can honestly say that it really feels good to let go and let God and as a result, my strength has returned ten fold!

The beauty that I see through the eyes of my children lets me know that I am making progress! They are making progress! How beautiful is that? Pain REALLY can teach us lessons, if we are open and willing to receive.

One example of this is that you must give up what you could lose in order to gain what you could not lose. Lord knows, I have given up a lot but have come out a winner!

I know that I will have set backs, but I also know that I will overcome them. I am a survivor. Life as I know it is changing and becoming BEAUTIFUL again! Thanks be to God! Just My Two Cents...

TIME....

Time is all we have. We cannot fast forward it. We cannot rewind it. All we can do is live in the TIME of now and make the most of it before it is too late!!

So, value NOT the things you have in life, rather, value WHO you have in life!! PLEASE count your Blessings for as cliche as it sounds, it is so very true ~ tomorrow is not promised to us! Take the TIME to tell those that you value how much they mean to you ~ before it is too late. Just My Two Cents...

Letting go of the Bitterness

Holding on to bitterness and anger not only leaves a sour taste in your mouth but will also suck the very life out of you!

In an effort to heal, PLEASE ~ Take a deep breath, bite your tongue, be the ADULT and FORGIVE ~ just do not forget!!

Forgiveness is the hardest part but it can be done! As my divorce progresses toward what seems like forever to end, I have had to learn the hard way to bite my tongue ~ trust me, I have several bite marks to prove my point!! lol

At first, I was devastated and hurt by the horrible things the monster I had been married to had done and tried to do to me. I was broken. But once I got my strength back, I became angry AND bitter. However, it came at a cost!! I was turning into someone I did not like and that price was too high for me to pay!

Once things calmed down, I knew that if I was going to move beyond this and be the better person, I HAD to let go of the bitterness! I found that the only way for me to accomplish this was to totally let God step in and take over.

Now, I am in the process of moving on to the bigger and better things that God has planned for me. The road has been long and arduous, but I am almost there...Just My Two Cents...